How To Ask A Girl Out

Asking a girl for a date should be easy. All you have to do is ask, right? But it's not always that simple. For example, you could be shy, you could be nervous, or you could have horns sticking out of your head. In reality, there are all sorts of reasons why asking a girl out isn't as easy as it should be. At some point, however, you're going to have to step up and be bold, or forever wonder what if. Read these guidelines, draw some courage, and ask her out! And remember, all you have to do is be yourself!

STEPS IN ASKING A GIRL OUT

FIRST CONTACT

• Approach the girl you like. Don't worry about coming up with something overly clever, simply say "Hi" or "Hey." As the conversation moves forward you can give her a complement or ask her a question. It can be scary, but it's really pretty simple. If starting conversations is not your strong point, read these articles:
• Flirt a little! Relax, crack a joke, and break the touch barrier.
• Help her out. Offer to carry her books, or do something nice for her. If she refuses, then wait until she really needs help or comforting, like when she's feeling down or just got really embarrassed. Be friendly and outgoing, and don't be a pervert or a stalker or you will never get any girls.

FIGURE OUT IF SHE LIKES YOU

Gauge her interest. Is she making eye contact with you? Is she smiling, laughing, and having a good time talking to you? If so, you're on the right track. While talking, make sure to look at her face, specifically, her eyes. Pay attention to what she is saying so that when she asks you something, or stops talking, you can continue the conversation intelligently. Don't get caught staring at her body (especially her breasts). Very few women actually like this. Read her body language.

• Notice if she touches you more often than what friends do (she's constantly trying to touch your hand or something). If she finds excuses to do so, then you're probably on the right track. But conversely, don't assume that if she isn't touching you that she doesn't like you. She may be too nervous to touch you yet. Likewise, don't start touching her if she isn't making contact with you. This usually scares girls and makes them think that you are just after their body. No girl wants to feel like an object.
• Observe how she looks at you. If she likes you, she will either hold your gaze for a long time or pull away immediately. Either of these could mean that she likes you. If she pulls away quickly, it means she is nervous but she still likes you. If you happen to glance at the girl and you see her staring back at you, then this means that she likes you, although she may quickly dart her head in a different direction. Remember that if you are having a conversation, girls tend to look at your face, so don't immediately assume that she likes you if you are speaking and she is listening. Again, look at her face, specifically, her eyes. Don't be thinking about how she kisses, because it shows on the look on your face. Listen to what she is saying and respond.

POP THE QUESTION

When the time is right, ask her for a date. "Hey, why don't you come to the movies with me this weekend?" It doesn't just have to be the movies - it can be anything you're interested in, and that you think she'll enjoy too. Or you could ask her what her favorite ice cream flavor is and offer to treat her with some.

• Another good way to ask is "I heard about this movie, _______. What do you think about it?" If she says she thinks it looks good, ask her if she'd like to go with you to see it. If she asks "As in a date?" say yes. Girls like guys who are sure of themselves much better than they do the cowardly guys. BTW: When you're at the movie theater, make sure to ask her if she wants a snack and buy it for her; it will show that you will take care of her always.
• Don't make it seem like a big deal when you ask her on a date. Just say "I was wondering if you would maybe want to go to a concert this Saturday night. I think it would be fun if we both went together." Keep it casual.

BE PREPARED FOR REJECTION

Keep your cool if she says no. Respond gracefully, like "No problem! Maybe another time." and smile. Act as if you don't need her, because that will make her want you more. Change the conversation to something else, or if you just want to get out of there, talk for a bit longer, following the steps from above, and then pretend you just got a text message from your mom saying you have to get home or call her or something. Don't be harsh about it, she might feel guilty, as if she was supposed to say yes. Just remember: there are other fish in the sea!

• Another way to go about doing it is to bail before she has a chance to respond. See How to Sweep a Girl off Her Feet.
• Be independent! If a girl isn't interested in you, don't keep hanging around. It's weird.
 

TIPS

• Ask her out when you two are alone. Having others around will put pressure on her to say yes or no, and you want her true answer.
• If you tend to date around a lot, then a girl might get turned off for you being a player. Girls tend to go out with guys that can be trustworthy and can keep a relationship. The worst thing for a girl is when a guy asks her out, and then breaks up with her pretty fast.
• Ask her out directly. Instead of texting, getting other boys to ask her out for you, or beating around the bush, just ask her. Even if you're nervous, this will increase your chances. Most girls will admire your confidence if you are not arrogant about it.
• Being relaxed and confident is the difference between a comfortable silence and an unbearable silence. It's natural to have breaks in the conversation. Don't sweat it. Of course you'll be nervous! Just calm down, because she probably is too.
• Try to look the girl in the eyes. This will let her know that you are about to ask her out. It may take a lot of courage, but it helps so much.
• Don't be afraid of rejection! Most girls have big hearts and will let you down very easily, if at all. Some girls will agree to go on one date just because you asked and they're being nice. Don't take it the wrong way, it simply means she likes you enough to not hurt your feelings but not enough that she's ready for a relationship. And maybe, once she gets to know you, she will be ready!
• When you approach the girl, try not to start the conversation by saying, "Hey, can I talk to you?" or "Can I ask you something?". This is a good way to blindside a girl. You want your conversation to be as smooth as possible.
• If she says no, you can respond by saying, "Oh, okay. Is it fine if we're still friends?".
• Sometimes the girl may not have much dating experience and will be uncomfortable going out. They may say no just because they are nervous. If they bite their lip, look away, blush a lot or show any signs of nerves, give them time to think about it. After two or three weeks, ask again, casually, and they may say yes.

WARNINGS

• Be persistent, but not too persistent. If she turns you down gently, then she's politely telling you she's not interested. If she flat out refuses, back away. You don't want any girl to think you're a stalker.
• If you have to ask her out through a friend, you will get a "no" by default. Girls do not enjoy hearing, "Hey! I'm asking you out for (Name of guy). He doesn't like you enough to overcome his lack of confidence." Just be a man and do it yourself! They will hear this regardless of how tactful your friend is, unless her friend is a very close friend to both you and herself.
• Make sure you don't have bad breath!
• You do not always need to have a friendship with a girl before you can ask her out. You can walk up to any girl on the street or in a cafe and ask her for a date. Just make sure that you impress her first. In other words, if you approach a girl who looks realy nice while you yourself are wearing dirty clothes and smell bad, you will probably fail. But if you look nice as well and are confident then there is nothing wrong with asking someone you just met out for a date/coffee/or some other simple activity. If you only asked girls out who you knew, there would be a lot of singles around.
• Don't ever use an electronic device to ask her out. Girls hate that. If you are man enough to ask her out, you are man enough for a relationship.
• Don't assume they are giving you signs. If a girl is being friendly, it doesn't always mean she is into you. She could be a normally friendly person trying to be nice by actually talking to everyone.

OUR COMMENTS

We have chosen this article to share with you because of several reasons. Mainly, this article is a very popular which has been viewed 3, 988, 811 times! We are girls and we find this article to be very accurate in terms of how to ask a girl out. Some guys have cliché thoughts of getting the girl they want and sometimes the way they approach us varies accordingly to different guys. But listed above are some ways that the guys have to bear in mind in asking a girl out.


Which girl does not like to be asked out? We understand that guys have some nerves in coming up to the girl that they like but guys who have the courage to ask her out, that's the guy we should have in this world! However, there are some guys who approach girls in a less casual and partly scary way.. Let us show you an example.


With the use of the Malay cliché words such as "Hey, boleh berkenalan?" It would make the girl feel uncomfortable with you from the start and would ignore you after. It's not wrong by saying that but have some form of courtesy and start with a friendlier way (if you both are strangers) by starting a friendly conversation and not make it too obvious from the start that you're trying to get her attention just because you're into her!


Instead of approaching her directly face-to-face, you can use various form of communication technologies to approach the girl you like such as through Facebook chat, Twitter, BBM, Whatsapp and et cetera! So guys out there, bear in mind of the steps in asking the girl of your dreams out! Be yourself is the most important thing and don't brag too much of yourself. If you ever come to a rejection from a girl, don't put yourself down. There's plenty of fishes in the sea, you'll find your Mrs. Perfect sooner or later.


For the guys, Good Luck in asking a girl out! and for the girls, Don't be too hard on the guy, they have to go through a lot to get to you so be nice and don't lead a guy on if you don't like him!